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Arguing in Bad Faith When there is an argument in any relationship, an ordinary person tries to resolve the problem by taking responsibility for the part they played or understand the other person's point of view to have a minimum common ground. However, when it comes to narcissists, they deliberately twist your words and pretend to misunderstand you. This tactic is known as arguing in bad faith and this is one of their favorite tactics because it allows them to escape accountability and deflect all blame on you.  Word Salad The pathological narcissist intentionally uses the word Salad to manipulate you so that you question yourself rather than questioning them. They use the Word Salad to create confusion to control the conversation. They become extremely upset or aggressive, believing that you are illogical, unreasonable, uneducated and unable to have a mature conversation with them or understand their non-sensical gibberish. This further twists the victim's reality making the

  How Do They Make Other People Happy? Aries : they know how to make you feel like you’re doing something right, they always cheer you on with everything you do. Taurus : they are always up for a venting session, and they listen just as much as they talk. Gemini : they can put you in a better mood almost instantly with their kindness, they always have something to say that will make you smile. Cancer : they have a way of making people feel safe like they care about you and nothing will happen to you if they’re around. Leo : they will make you feel beautiful, Leo is the best at giving compliments and praise when you don’t feel good about yourself at all. Virgo : they have a way of making humor out of anything, they could be in the worst mood but somehow make it fun and make you laugh. Libra : they are very observant and you will automatically feel understood around a libra with the way they empathize with you. Scorpio : they can make anyone around them excited for life, whenever they’re

  “Drink water from the spring where horses drink. The horse will never drink bad water. Lay your bed where the cat sleeps." "Eat the fruit that has been touched by a worm." "Boldly pick the mushroom on which the insects sit."  "Plant the tree where the mole digs. Build your house where the snake sits to warm itself." "Dig your fountain where the birds hide from the heat." "Go to sleep and wake up at the same time with the birds – you will reap all of the day's golden grains."  "Eat more green – you will have strong legs and a resistant heart, like the beings of the forest."  "Swim often and you will feel on earth like the fish in the water." "Look at the sky as often as possible and your thoughts will become light and clear. Be quiet a lot, speak little – and silence will come in your heart, and your spirit will be calm and full of peace.” Saint Seraphim of Sarov Nature is talking to you, are you liste

1. Create a very specific and detailed goal “You need a plan to build a house. To build a life, it is even more important to have a plan or goal.” – Zig Ziglar The first success mantra from Ziglar is to  set specific goals  because goals help you focus. Ziglar wants you to set the following types of goals: ·         Big goals:  Big goals are the type of goals that cause excitement and motivate you. If setbacks happen, focusing on these big goals will help push you forward. ·         Long-range goals:  These can include monthly and yearly goals. ·         Daily goals:  Daily goals help you work consistently toward your long-range goals. Once your goals are in place, you can develop a plan on how to achieve them. Find out what obstacles you face, the skills you need to learn, and the people you need to meet to achieve your goals. You don’t need to have everything figured out in the beginning. You can alter your goals and plans as you progress and as things become clear.

The 21st century is characterized by connectivity. Over the past couple of decades, it’s become handy to connect with different sources of information and people. We can access the internet almost anywhere, we can make phone calls and text friends around the globe easily. This is how we get distracted so often and find it especially difficult to focus on finishing what we should do. If you are a typical American worker, you’ll be distracted every 11 minutes, and it will take you 25 minutes to actually settle down again to your task. The more complicated your project, the longer it takes to regain your focus because your brain has to put in considerable effort when switching between complex objectives. But if you’re reading this, you value your time and want to take control of your attention. In this worksheet, you will discover the distractions around you and what you can do to stop being pulled over by these distractions and stay focused to get things done. What is Distraction?

You might not have a money  tree, but you can have the next best thing: a happiness tree. Happy people are more motivated, effective, and productive. Dopamine, Serotonin, Oxytocin, and Endorphins are the hormones responsible for your happiness. Many situations can trigger these neurotransmitters, but instead of being in the passenger seat, there are ways you can intentionally cause them to flow: 1. Dopamine. Dopamine motivates you to take action toward your goals and gives you the momentum of reinforcing pleasure when achieving them. Procrastination, self-doubt, and lack of enthusiasm are linked with low levels of dopamine.  Break big goals down into little pieces. Rather than only allowing your brain to celebrate when you’ve hit the big finish line, you can create a series of little finish lines for frequent dopamine release. And it’s crucial to actually celebrate -- buy a bottle of wine, or head to your favorite restaurant whenever you meet a small goal. And avoid the dopamine

                                                                                                                         Be Comforted, Do Not Worry Crisis is a challenge to grow. [Anthony de Mallo] We must remember that God does not forget his children who are the victims of evil forces. [Martin Luther King Jr] A good man may be put in the fire, but he cannot be burned. [Spurgeon] One should never be disheartened. Despair eventually leads to miseries and kills a man even as a serpent kills a boy. Look not mournfully into the past; it returns no more; wisely improves the present, and go fit into the shadowy future without fear and with a manly heart. [Henry Wadsworth Longefollow]                                                           Charity/Generosity When you are good to others you are best to yourself. [Benjamin Franklin] By being helpful, kind, and generous, you will brighten every room you enter. [Sidney Newton Bremer] The highest exercise of charity is charity towards the uncha